21/06/2017

Tips On How To Make It Through A Bad Day

We all have bad days.  There's no escaping them, and sometimes they can be bad.  Really bad.  Some of us unfortunately suffer with our mental health.  For me personally this is a mixture of both anxiety and depression, so when the bad days are bad, they can be bordering on unbearable.

I've seen many blog posts with tips and advice on how to turn a bad day into a good day, but as somebody who is frequently battling with her mental health I know that some days, this just isn't possible.  Some days the bad days are so bad there isn't anything you or I can do to change that.  Believe me, if we could, we would.

I had a day like this just this Saturday gone.  I hadn't felt that down in a long time.  I'd had a week plagued with dreams of my Mum, which in theory, sounds lovely, but for me, as lovely as some of the dreams were, it was a very stark reminder that she wasn't really here anymore when I woke up.  This kept me awake a lot of nights last week, so I was lacking in the good night's rest department, I was obviously feeling especially sad about my Mum, and I got to a point where I didn't care about anything.  My voice was monotone.  I wasn't mean to Spencer, but there was clearly no care in my tone, which I imagine can sometimes be worse for him.  When I'm upset at least he knows I'm feeling something.  This day though, I just felt nothing.  Numb.

I know my mood wasn't going to improve.  I had little to no energy to put the effort in that was required to improve my day, so instead I took some steps to help me through the day instead, and manage my mood.  I suppose in a sense these steps did make my day a little better, but my mood didn't improve vastly until the next day.

I know that there are many people out there who suffer in this way sometimes too.  Life is tough sometimes, and eventually it catches up with us mentally, so here are a few things you can do to help you through those days...


Write it all down

I'm going to hazard a guess that many of you reading this are bloggers like myself, in which case you probably love writing as much as I do.  Use that passion to your advantage.

Many of us share a great deal of our lives online in hopes that our advice, tips, recommendations, stories and reviews will help our readers, but it's just not possible to share absolutely every part of our lives online.  Some things are just too personal, the inner workings of our minds being one of them.  Sometimes certain feelings and situations just shouldn't be shared for the entire world to see.  Writing things down really can help though.

I find when I'm in one of these awful moods, my head is a huge mess.  All my thoughts feel like they're tangled up in a spider's web, so I've taken to writing my thoughts down in a note book to help me make sense of them.  It's for my eyes only, so it's a place I feel like I can be absolutely truthful to myself with no fear of judgement from anybody around me.

This isn't something that has to cost you the world.  I picked up a really cute notebook for a couple of pounds in Primark a while back, and it's turned into a little safe haven for me to turn to when I need to make sense of the mess that is my head sometimes.

Take a break from the internet

I know this is an obvious one, but I really couldn't recommend it more.  Again, being a person who spends a great deal of her time online with her blog and her Etsy shop, the internet can be overwhelming sometimes.  Certainly in this day and age, where it seems to be full of negativity, trolls and far too much bullying.  Most days I can overlook the bad and find the happy, positive pockets of the internet, but on days where I feel like this it just brings me further down, so I avoid it at all costs.

Time away from the internet is great for your mental health.  It frees up time for you to concentrate on yourself more and practice some self care, then when you return to the internet you'll be in a better frame of mind and those creative juices will flow once more.


Invest in some mindfulness books

Mindfulness.  Some of us love it; some of us are sick of hearing about it.  I personally think it's a wonderful thing, especially for those of us battling with our mental health.  I bought myself a couple of mindfulness books when I was in that bad place on Saturday, and have been loving getting into them since.  These aren't just the kind of books you read from cover to cover.  They're full of activities to ensure you practice what the books preach.

I picked up 'Wake Up' by Chris Barez-Brown and Calm by Michael Acton Smith, and so far I have been loving working my way through them.  They really have been helping me be more mindful about life in general, and I'm really starting to notice when I'm slipping into autopilot, which as a result is helping me to focus more.


Read something that brings you comfort

If you love books as much as I do, then you'll no doubt have a book or a series of books that comforts you.  When I say comfort I mean that take make you feel safe, and take you back to a certain point in life.

Being part of the Hazza P generation, mine is obviously the Harry Potter collection.  This series of books has been a huge part of my life since I was 13 years old.  That's a long, long time.  When I read Harry Potter, not only am I transported to a world I adore time and time again; I'm also transported to a time where life was simpler, responsibilities were few and far between, and in general I felt a little happier than I do on these bad days.  When I read these books I feel like I'm sat in front of the fire in the Gryffindor common room watching the story play out in my mind.  It's a wonderful feeling, so whenever life is kicking my ass, I'll turn to these books to help me through the day.

For Christmas last year Spencer bought me the first two books in the illustrated editions, which are available on Amazon here and here.  I've been loving reading my copy of The Philosopher's Stone.  The illustrations just add a whole new level of magic to the story.

I think it's important to remember that when we experience one of these days, it's ok to feel whatever it is we're feeling.  I look at it as my minds way of releasing the negativity, so sometimes I have to have these horrible days, so I can have the good days.  Sometimes it's bearable, and sometimes it's not, but I will never, ever suppress those feelings.  I just make sure I look after myself a little more in those darker days.

Let me know if you try out any of my tips, or if you have any others to add to my list, leave them in the comments below.  You never know, it may just help somebody who really needs it today.
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